tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3768939451002135910.post2082149699653359899..comments2023-11-05T00:22:56.457-07:00Comments on Nolan's Story: I need that brown paper bag.Ashley Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02156590541468931197noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3768939451002135910.post-69004009319993386282010-05-24T12:38:14.469-07:002010-05-24T12:38:14.469-07:00*huge hugs* I totally get this. Unless they have b...*huge hugs* I totally get this. Unless they have been there they don't get it. Being pregnant no way replaces the child you have lost. In some ways it almost hurts more.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3768939451002135910.post-71555933609396447052010-05-21T19:34:29.745-07:002010-05-21T19:34:29.745-07:00the feelings you are feeling are normal hun. My so...the feelings you are feeling are normal hun. My sons 1 year is coming up in july, and I too am pregnant with a rainbow baby, so all those emotions, I share with you. everything you just said is all too familiar. I cant help but be terrified out of my mind, every little bit of discomfort I stress and think ill miscarry, or something aweful, and no matter how many positive things people tell me, it doesnt ease my fear because NONE of them know what it feels like to lose your child, and none of them understand the fear. the fear of losing anotherMissingYouAlwayshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03621625659635254849noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3768939451002135910.post-19429570386104715162010-05-21T18:49:55.937-07:002010-05-21T18:49:55.937-07:00Ashley,
I don't see how anyone can feel like y...Ashley,<br />I don't see how anyone can feel like you are ready to not be jealous over another's pregnancy. I think personally, I would always have jealous and angry feelings towards others. Best friends, or not. The fact that they can't put themselves in your place is entirely their issue, not yours. I know I don't always say the right thing to you, but I try to say something, so you know someone else cares about you & sweet Nolan. Losing a child isn't something you ever, "get over." They don't make replacement children and it sounds like some of your friends need a wakeup call with some harsh truths before you explode. I'm hoping for a chunker of a baby growing in your tummy.Krystlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09187192435365185552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3768939451002135910.post-50472683702394592062010-05-21T17:51:32.974-07:002010-05-21T17:51:32.974-07:00Oh honey. Hang in there.Oh honey. Hang in there.Angiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18312554628022949248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3768939451002135910.post-26405835004862898382010-05-21T15:18:41.420-07:002010-05-21T15:18:41.420-07:00Hugs. I too hate the fact that now I'm pregna...Hugs. I too hate the fact that now I'm pregnant again people have starting telling me about friends of friends pregnancies. I still find it hard being around pregnant women and babies - that hasn't changed. <br /><br />Sending you hugs as you approach 1 year. <br /><br />Maddie xMaddiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15665878580598197034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3768939451002135910.post-39818987466297415812010-05-21T13:40:56.281-07:002010-05-21T13:40:56.281-07:00I'm sure the days leading up to a year will be...I'm sure the days leading up to a year will be hard and I hope that people will be sensitive to that fact. The feelings you have are completely normal IMO and it's definitely something other BLMs understand.Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15431384515813384025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3768939451002135910.post-74984385293371174292010-05-21T11:42:05.045-07:002010-05-21T11:42:05.045-07:00This post is not everywhere, it is rightly said. I...This post is not everywhere, it is rightly said. I am sorry that you are hurting so much, I know the next few weeks are going to be extremely difficult. I wish I could give you a big hug through this computer and sit with you to just talk about your precious Nolan. I think of the two of you all the time and now your little one too. Praying that God is gentle with your heart these days.Lisettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06486760107232191431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3768939451002135910.post-12537379733354101602010-05-21T11:21:45.691-07:002010-05-21T11:21:45.691-07:00This is an amazing post. You have literally taken...This is an amazing post. You have literally taken the words right out of my mouth. I wonder if I will ever enjoy a pregnancy, if I will never not have a day where I wonder if this is where it all ends.<br /><br />Hang in there. I understand.Busted Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13237839616697830224noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3768939451002135910.post-48888840540573039122010-05-21T10:55:18.198-07:002010-05-21T10:55:18.198-07:00I think you have a lot going on and I can't im...I think you have a lot going on and I can't imagine the toll it is taking on you to hear from other N-BLM to tell you about their pregnancy. I know how that feels all to well. I think you are brave to share how you feel, and it helps the rest of us who can't say it out loud. I lost a friend I was pregnant with at the same time I was. About 3 months after I had Nathan she would complain to me about how over being pregnant she was and what she wouldn't do to be done already I just couldn't handle hearing it because I would have been pregnant for a year if it meant keeping my son. I hope that you are able to keep all of your friends and in 8 months you are holding your sweet baby ;)My lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11577697959116005711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3768939451002135910.post-7747932573861764782010-05-21T10:45:27.950-07:002010-05-21T10:45:27.950-07:00I have not lost a child. I have lost a parent and...I have not lost a child. I have lost a parent and grieving is a process. You are't crazy at all. Praying for you and your pregnancy.the Spockshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18226430548098226120noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3768939451002135910.post-26454511126388062912010-05-21T10:27:42.170-07:002010-05-21T10:27:42.170-07:00(((HUGS))) You are so not crazy, I promise. When I...(((HUGS))) You are so not crazy, I promise. When I found out I was expecting our rainbow I was so emotional and I went through all of these ups and downs too. I'll be praying!The Blue Sparrowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08196234778836756227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3768939451002135910.post-7103721698791662122010-05-21T09:38:23.915-07:002010-05-21T09:38:23.915-07:00Vent away Ashley. I am so sorry that you even have...Vent away Ashley. I am so sorry that you even have to experience these emotions. It is tough and I wont lie and say its going to be easy. I was on pins and needles the whole time. What I can tell you though is that you have MANY praying for you. I even taught myself to say this mantra when I was worrying : "i am doing all that I can, the rest is up to God". Praying, Praying, Praying for you. {hugs}Marie Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18203552551406512142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3768939451002135910.post-54976502801444980322010-05-21T07:30:16.210-07:002010-05-21T07:30:16.210-07:00((((hugs))))
this post doesn't seem all over ...((((hugs))))<br /><br />this post doesn't seem all over the place to me, it's seems just perfect and very normal.<br /><br />always praying.... there is so much my heart wants to say but the words just don't come. i'm so sorry that this road has gotten harder.... tough days will always be there but easier days will too. hold tight my friend, you are supported and understood here, in this BL blog world, you are among friends.bellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13338099802954577987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3768939451002135910.post-17447053339703228842010-05-21T07:16:55.256-07:002010-05-21T07:16:55.256-07:00It's so hard! It stinks! I am only 8.5 month...It's so hard! It stinks! I am only 8.5 months into my journey after losing my son and 24 weeks into my rainbow pregnancy and every day is a challenge in one way or another. <br /><br />Just get through each day the best you can. Great job putting your feelings out there. That's what people need from us. And be willing to ask for help. <br /><br />I will leave you with something that another mommy said to me about my rainbow pregnancy...maybe it will help you too! - Don't let worry be the thing you remember about this pregnancy. <br /><br />I'm praying for you!Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16926979919960842520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3768939451002135910.post-60441718640546663852010-05-21T07:08:51.811-07:002010-05-21T07:08:51.811-07:00WOW yes, you are perfectly feeling normal, im only...WOW yes, you are perfectly feeling normal, im only in this 3 months and I would imagine feeling the SAME as you are with a rainbow..DONT come running up to me and think we share a story WE dont only our BLM know what we mean and how we feel..and i can still ONLY hear about rainbows coming or being born...im scared with you and excited with you and SAD about Nolan with you...it is a bittersweet thing i can imagine when rainbow comes along and i wish people still realized that YES you are pregnant but Nolan's day is quickly approaching and there is no drug in the world strong enough for that pain to be "OK" by now..xoxo...keep blogging though getting your emotions and feelings out will help keep you together...Rainbow needs momma to b calm..xoxoAntoinettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16345208031210597597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3768939451002135910.post-36911377139272127162010-05-21T07:06:22.514-07:002010-05-21T07:06:22.514-07:00I love you and you aren't crazy for these feel...I love you and you aren't crazy for these feelings! I think it's 100% normal and like you said, only BLM can truly know the feelings you expressed.Maggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11728204095692235352noreply@blogger.com